The crumbs vs. the loaf
OK. So… Say you write to a somewhat interesting-seeming guy on OKCuckoo. Say you write a few short sentences saying, essentially, “Hey, you seem smart and interesting. I like your profile. Check mine out and write back if you feel so inclined.”
Then you get this message back from said guy:
“Hi, thanks for writing. Those are nice things of you to say. Hope your weekend is a good one. Regards, Eric”
Uh… Alright then! Thanks for those insightful comments, Eric. Thanks for taking the time to respond WITHOUT ACTUALLY SAYING ANYTHING or asking me any questions or saying any “nice things” back to me. That makes me feel really good; really special. Sigh.
I just went through a breakup (via email! stay classy!) with someone who gave me nothing more than crumbs for 3 months, who toyed with me and gave me mixed signal after mixed signal. It was painful and not that fun feeling like such a low priority for someone I was truly interested in, someone I felt something for. While discussing this shit with my friend Sarah last night, I realized (yet again) that i won’t accept crumbs anymore. NO MORE CRUMBS! As Sarah said, I WANT THE WHOLE LOAF. if you can’t bother or don’t have enough time or don’t have enough interest to give me, at least, BIGGER CHUNKS OF THE LOAF, then don’t bother writing at all, Eric. Same goes for the rest of you dudes on OKCuckoo.
